Stephellaneous Beginnings

Write. Just fucking do it. Write something. Then click that big blue button with the shiny white letters telling you to Publish. Something. Anything. It took a fucking year to get over the whole “what the hell would I even name a blog” paralysis. I realize now that was about far more than not being able to come up with a semi-original name.

Anyway. Some points about me and what to expect if you stick around:

  1. I curse. Sometimes a lot. And my favorite swear word is “fuck.” I use it as just about any part of speech and even as prefixes and suffixes. You’ve been warned.
  2. This blog will serve as a pressure valve to release the noise in my brain. That said, the topics will be many and varied. At least I think they will. That all depends on the noise. This also explains the title. Stephellaneous. Stephanie + Miscellaneous = I don’t have to explain this. Why am I explaining this. You’re smart, and you totally get it. Anyway. Books, movies, news, personal ranting or musing, music. It’s all fair game to me.
  3. I digress. A lot. I think you’ve figured that out already.
  4. Sometimes I’m a smartass. Sometimes I’m emotional. Sometimes I’m angry. Sometimes I’m pessimistic. A lot. Sometimes I’m overly forgiving. Sometimes I hate myself. In other words, I’m human. Sue me. (Please don’t sue me; I’m broke.)
  5. I like parentheticals (a lot). And I love hyperbole. I love it so much I want to marry it and have luaus on Saturn.
  6. I tend toward perfectionism and am often too hard on myself. I will endeavor to just write. Something. Anything. Regularly. Because I need an outlet. Though I hope to eventually have a small community of friends here, my main goal right now is to consistently get my thoughts out as a form of catharsis and belonging. Because even if no one is reading this, it still makes me feel as though I’m at least (a teensy) part of something.

Yeah, I think that’s all of the intro I need. I’ll just dive right in soon. Perhaps even today. We’ll see.


195 thoughts on “Stephellaneous Beginnings

  1. Hi Stephanie! πŸ™‚ Thanks for chatting with me today and “fuck” is probably the best word on the planet lol It has helped me through many trying times in my life. I love that you say “just write” it’s so true…honestly I got kind of caught up with technical writing and tried to keep up with those trying to be the next Hemingway…(news flash: stop trying…it’s like trying to be Freddie Mercury…there can only be one lol) once I got over that and realized I don’t really care to have writing snobs follow my blog, things started to get real and awesome πŸ™‚ Can’t wait to read more from you! xo

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    1. Thank you, Cavelle! For both your kind words and your camaraderie – welcome things in a too often dark world. And damn, tell me about it! I love that you mentioned Hemingway, one of my favorite authors. Sometimes The favorite. And no way in hell will I ever be the next Hemingway. I laughed when you mentioned Freddie Mercury…there won’t be any statues of me popping up in Poland. That’s for damn sure. πŸ˜€

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  2. Hey there Stephanie! Just clicking around the blogosphere and commenting on blogs that I think are fun and interesting, and you’re one of them. October is my birthday month, so consider this an invitation to my month-long birthday party. Hope to see you over at That’s So Jacob sometime!

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      1. Oh shit! Why did I see this just now?! πŸ˜€ I am glad I’ve dropped by in your ultra mighty space once again! So, I’ve recently done my first participation in a blogger award, and I’ve nominated you for it! If you can spare some of your free time to check it out, here’s the link for it: Thank you and I hope you have an ultra mighty, wonderfuuuuul day! πŸ™‚ – Diana

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    1. Ha! Thank you so much – and yeah, I’ve kicked the idea around for probably much longer than a year…and my go to excuse was, “Yeah, but what would I even call it. Gah.” And then I’d go back to ignoring the idea. πŸ™‚


      1. Same here – it took me ages to start my blog (I finally did so a month ago), even though I did plenty of writing offline over the years. I had two excuses: 1) I value my privacy/anonymity too much (that’s why I’m not on social media) and 2) Who the hell would be interested in reading what I write anyway? Anyway, I’m really glad you stopped ignoring the idea of writing your own blog. Oh, and I really like your header picture – where is it from?

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      2. Thank you, and back at ya! We share *very* similar reasons (anonymity and really who would give a shit?!), and it sounds like we started up around the same time. I’m glad we stumbled upon each other!

        Thanks for the compliment of the header pic…honestly, I googled something to use until I can come up with something more original of my own. I’m trying to remember what search term(s) I used. Something like “journey,” I think.

        I like the title of your blog, by the way. Becoming unstuck. Sounds like a good plan. πŸ™‚

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      3. Me too, I’m glad we stumbled upon each other! Like you, I’m using my blog as an outlet for my thoughts, even though I can see from what I’ve read so far that you’re not holding back much (while I am…I’m still cautious). You wrote: “Because even if no one is reading this, it still makes me feel as though I’m at least (a teensy) part of something.” That’s exactly how I feel.
        I’ve recently moved back to Canada after having lived in other countries for a long time, so I decided it was the perfect time to start blogging as I had wanted to do for the last eon or so. I told myself to ‘just fucking do it’! I’m ultra-talented at getting in my own way, so starting my own blog is my first step towards becoming unstuck.
        You did a good job picking your header pic, even though it’s not an original one. All the pics on my blog are my own except for the ones in the reblogged posts. Since I have so many pictures from my travels, I wanted to put them to good use.

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      4. Thank you – I definitely prefer your original pics, though!

        Sometimes I worry that I’m letting too much out. What if someone connects this with me? My name? My employer? Kinda scary if I let my mind run with thoughts like that. For now, I’ve kinda thrown caution to the wind and let a lot of shit out that I keep bottled up in my day to day life. It’s been…therapeutic so far, I think. I hope you’re finding the same… πŸ™‚


      5. I think that as long as you don’t mention your last name, other people’s full names and specific details of your whereabouts, everything should be fine. It IS tricky to achieve a balance between expressing yourself openly and being cautious about how much you’re sharing. I empathize with your worries – the mind is so powerful! I’ve been finding the practice of blogging to be beneficial to my mental and emotional health overall, but on the flip side, I’m also struggling with comparing myself unfavourably to other bloggers and feeling self-imposed pressure to publish a certain number of posts in a given period. Oh well, it’s all about learning to accept myself exactly as I am. πŸ™‚

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      6. Ohhhh yeah, I definitely do the comparisons, too. That’s dangerous, because if I’m not careful I could easily allow it to make me quit. And I don’t want to do that. This blog is for me. And yours is for you. And so on. And second to that, they’re for each other…to lean on and find solidarity and support and laughter and all sorts of wonderful things I didn’t expect. πŸ™‚

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  3. Stephellaneous! Love the name
    Your honesty is refreshing in a world filled with people trying to be PC and failing just the same, ha!
    I look forward to reading more.

    Hi Stephanie, thank you for the visit and follow. I also love and use the word Fuck! a lot lol.
    peace and happiness to you


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  4. All that intro… and I’m. Not. Scared.
    Bring the heat, sister. Bring the heat. Which is my way of saying I am looking forward to seeing your posts, and thank you for deciding to follow A Joyful Process.
    (waves goodbye for now, but I’ll be back)

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    1. Well that was a pretty kickass way to introduce yourself…and I love it! πŸ™‚ Don’t worry, I do my best to keep my profanity-laden tirades to my own space and out of comments on others’ pages.

      Thank you for following and chatting. I’m gonna hush now. Once I get going, I can run my mouth like nobody’s business. And I need to clock out! πŸ™‚


  5. Beautiful! Just what I like πŸ™‚ Hey there, I found you over at OM’s blog in the link up he offered to all of us. Glad I came over. I don’t swear a lot (at least not on my blog so far… but sometimes I do. And I do a lot in real life…). Looking forward to diving deeper into your blog but I have to go now. It’s time to take my daughter dancing.

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  6. *thinking intensifies searching the creativest fuck I love you joke*
    Fuck it, 404, fuck I love you!
    I fucking love you!
    Damn I just spent my swearing limit for this month, I can’t swear until December if you ever dare left your funny honesty, I’ll get you fucked!
    Fuck love!

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  7. Thanks for the like and the follow I appreciate it. I’m happy also because it brought me straight to your blog, I enjoy the sense of humor. Also I mean, sometimes you just have to curse for no reason, especially if you stub your toe.
    That shit fucking hurts.
    Hope you have a great time in the blogging community you have a new follower out of me.

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  8. Finally I get too say Thanks for following my blog Stephanie – and for all the likes! I’m so chuffed you enjoy what spills outa my brain (when my eyes let me see the keys to write it! ha ha! πŸ™‚ ). Looking for ward to playing around in your blog! Thanks again! See ya in cyberspace! πŸ™‚

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  9. Oh! I need to dig out my essay explaining the many virtues and uses of the word fuck. It’s my favorite word, too. In fact, I think we are far more alike than just our propensity to say fuck. Reading this page, I thought you could be my ghostwriter. I can’t even list all of the similarities – it would be far too long.

    Thanks for following me… I can’t wait to read more from you.

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  10. You remind me so much of a good friend of mine. She always just said what was on her mind and is such a gem! I had to laugh at the whole taking a year to start your blog because I did the exact same thing and went so far as to do a couple of online courses to ensure I was setting it up correctly. I wanted perfection but opted for just getting started and rolling with it. Can’t wait to check out your blog. ~Steph

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